I feel one will never belong due to personal growth. I learn from my mistakes and form new healthier habits. Change is not a bad thing if it’s for the best. To belong with a certain group you do what they do, which limits growth. Personal growth never allows you to remain the same person. Ultimately no one will ever belong, since no one remains the same.
I have never met anyone that does not have a problem with someone else. The problems range from minor to enormous. Most people do not know how to put problems in the past or perspective. They allow issues to fester, turning themselves to monsters. Angry people walk around straight-faced ready to snap. This is not what you see, but most of us feel this way. Problems worsen as we internalize and hide from reality. I watch people on and off my reservation do this all the time.
Neither ethnicity nor your origin matter; you’ve seen this happen. Personal problems seem to prevent a person from truly belonging. Most people cannot handle being by themselves for a long time. Some of us try to “fit in” with others or just someone else. In the process, one does whatever is necessary to belong. Then, if the person is smart, he or she just might realize they are merely making someone else happy rather than themselves.
When you don’t feel happy inside, these emotions seem to influence negative thoughts. One could set one’s mind in a positive direction. Self-reflection allows one to skip a negative thought to leap towards the positive instead. Whether it is ignorance, racism, or basic math to win a battle you must keep your cool. Think about who is going to have the first thought not punch.
Ignorant people do not use their mind before they speak, write, or blog. Some pay close attention and some seem to pay no attention at all. To “fit in” in the world today you must keep your cool. Allow people to think they know you to prevail. In the end, it is only you and your family participating in the magical, “circle of life”.
